| Navane said: So I was talking to my girlfriend yesterday and the topic came up about strip clubs. She told me that if she was invited to one she'd definitely go. She rationalized it as she wouldn't be cheating since she isn't doing gonna have sex with anyone and said I could do the same as long as I at least told her. She likes to tease me hardcore sometimes, so she could be teasing me again but I just let it go since I didn't wanna make a big deal out of it. But this isn't something I'm comfortable with her doing since I wouldn't do it myself. Here's my logic on the whole matter: if she goes to a strip club with her friends then maybe she'll start getting ideas in her head about things. Then she might start becoming dissatisfied on a physical level (I'm a short skinny guy but do have some muscle definition at least) and might lead her to cheat on me. But then my counter argument is that we have seriously great sex (at least for her anyway). Like, I've made her orgasm over 30 times over an eight hour peirod. So I think "If I'm there for her on an emotional level (which I try my best to be) and a phsyical level, then I should have nothing to worry about, right?" I just don't know what to think about this and if I should be okay with her going to a strip club should it ever happen. Maybe it'll be a bit of harmless fun for her, but I can't help but feel it wouldn't benifit our relationship at all and be destructive on some level. This could just be my insecurities speaking, but I want to hear some thoughts on the matter. tl;dr Girfriend wants to go to strip club, I'm not okay with it. Thoughts? |
This one is easy my friend. Simply set the standard and don't go to one or want to go to one yourself. If she values you she will rise to your level, if she doesn't she's not worth your time.
You have every right to not enjoy the image of her in a room with a naked man, just as it is fine with her being uneasy with you being in the presence of a naked woman. And quite often more than just clothes removal happens in such scenarios. Personally, I'm not overly uptight about the strip club thing; I don't need to go myself, I would rather my GF doesn't go, but it's not the end of the world either way.
If I were you I wouldn't put too much thought into it, she's probably not putting a tonne of thought into it herself. She's not being hypocrytical, which is good. The scenario may never come up. And you definitely shouldn't worry about her wanting the guy or another guy or whatever... that's not really the issue here. A good portion of male dancers are actually gay anyway - stripping's all about the visual and the experience of getting riled up with her girlfriends. Just let it go, set the standard in yourself that you are not going to strip clubs and cross the bridge if it ever comes along. As long as you have been "above" strippers yourself, she may even go with her friends but then feel guilty, not drink and ask you to pick her up early.
Of greater concern is that she's lying about how much she's coming... you need to sort that shit out.
