Well, have in mind that this is my opinion. This kind of relationship is not going anywhere.
In my mind, a couple want to be more with other, learn with other, leave everyone to be with the chosen one. Yet, you and you girl are constantily trying to fill the gap with porn and strip clubs. And now, when do you try to trace a line about that, its hard, because you are not used to avoid certains thing for her, you just go and satisfy yourself, and she is just saying she will do the same.
A relation need to have respect. And respect involve you changing because of her, and her changing because of you.
So, what should you do? First, think about you really want with this girl. If just want someone to haging around, so let it be, soon or later this will end, if not because of that, will be because any other thing. If you want something more serious, like family and kids, so you need to change. You need to be the kind of person that you want be with. This really bother you that much? It's not like you had eyes only for her too. But if you fell that this kind of behavior ill affect your relation, so you will need to make changes at you first.
Second, talk to her. But not ask about that. Talk about what she wants with you to. If she want something serious too, then ask about what on you is bothering she. Girls act by revenge. A lot. They will always try to make you fell the same pain that they felt. Probably she just there, waiting for you reaction. Woman always try to know if you are a worthy man. If you will fell apart at every bump on the road. If you are trustworthy at something. If you are a man, with some high principles and values, or just a guy. If you can offer safety for her at someway. So you need to be serious with her, say that you are open to change yourself if she are open to change too herself too. That is not healthy for any of you two be exposed to another person on a sexual way, if you intend to only have sex with each other for the rest of your life. But remember, this involve you looking at another girls too!
She can(and probably will) laugh at your face, say that you are overreacting, that you are a jerk, that is just silly. But if really want something above mediocrity, a really great relationship, you need to more that you are today. The relationship can even fell apart forever, but if this really bothers you that much, you need to face the consequences. Maybe even after that anothers relations can fell apart too. But if on any of then there is love, that one will prevail.
Be like this is not easy, you will fail a lot, and you girl too. You can just forget this, like any other guy. Just enjoy, like all the guy around here. Be a guy or be a man, its up to you.
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