SvennoJ said:
DarthVolod said:
The problem still comes to down to whether or not a person should be forced to incur a financial responsibility for a child. In reality, it will always be the man paying the child support as contrasted to women who are almost never expected to pay even in the rare case that they do not receive custody. It is a double standard, and the best way to eliminate it would be to end child support as a practice. A man or woman has no financial burden to raise a child. Both should be allowed to offer a child for adoption or perform an abortion (in the case of both parents not wanting to raise a child), or to avoid any financial responsibility of raising a child if they do not wish to raise that child. Becoming a parent and being a parent should be a 100% voluntary action ... not something forced upon people by the state.
You are right, I have not seen my wife suffer through a difficult pregnancy, but I have seen my best friend psychologically destroyed by a burden to raise a child that he never wanted. Unfortunately, the law really doesn't care about him, the mother holds all the power to bring the pregnancy to term, end it, or whatever she wants to do basically. All he can do is shut up and take it.
I can't imagine what it would be like to experience a difficult pregnancy, but I also cannot imagine the pain/fear/anger my friend went through as he was stripped of his freedom to choose the course of his life. If given the choice, I can promise you that he would gladly suffer through the physical pain of child birth in order to rid himself of the incredible burden that has been placed on him against his will.
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Did he have sex against his will? He can try to sue his parents for not explaining the risks involved in having sex. If you feel you're old enough to take the risk, then you're old enough to take responsibility. The state certainly didn't force him to have sex.
Pleading ignorance or non intention doesn't work. How about he thinks about the child that needs a father. That's the risk you take when you have sex, your life will change completely and is no longer just your own.
Getting off from being a parent with just a bit of child support is still too easy a way out imo.
Anyway I believe you that the system is biased. If the father has custody then the mother has to pay child support as well.
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To put it bluntly, his parents (or more like "parent") were awful, and they had no business raising a child. The child that "needs a father" would be better off with parents that actually want children ... not people who are strong armed by a female centric legal system into fatherhood at gunpoint.
Child support is not an "easy way out." His wages will be garnished for the next eighteen years (thank god he didn't marry her otherwise he would have alimony on top of that). Failure to pay can lead to prison terms ... anything that will likely lead to prison time is not getting off easy in my opinion.
Even if we assume the best case scenario (he manages to pay child support while still maintaining a decent life) he will have this huge burden going forward that he will not emerge from until he is in his forties.
It is a sad state of affairs that this is what passes for justice and equal treatment under the law. Reverse the genders of the situation and she would have all the options I highlighted at her disposal.
