It all comes down to cultural differences, really.
People who are not into the japanese culture, never been in japan or are die hard navy/military fans cannot understand this and hate on every character that have medium/long hair, no beard and no rough lineament.
I lived in japan, I'm what you call a "feminine" guy (what I mean is long hair and pretty face but I'm the first to say that a man have to act mainly)... but the reality is that there this compare to "handsome" and you are more likely to get tons of girls. (it works here in italy too. Many people can think "eww man, he looks so gay" but there were a lot of girls after me when I was not in a relationship)
That said, I hate the characters that are VERY feminine in videogame, the ones that have extremely feminine apparences, acts like a pussy and are 100% annoying... but they are very few. (people like Zhang He in Dynasty Warriors)
