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[lestatdark]

Baalzamon said:

lestatdark said:
At this moment, the only thing I wish was that I could actually have a normal relationship with my girlfriend. We're basically just good friends now.

Unless you mean sexually, I'm very confused by what you mean with this.

When I find a girl I'm interested in, and start dating her, I WANT her to become my best friend (with benefits of course). I feel like if I don't marry somebody who over time became my best friend, I would simply be just settling.

Think about it, do you really want to spend a super prolonged period of time with somebody who isn't a good (or best) friend? This is the excuse that my ex used on me when she broke up with me (she felt we were just becoming friends), which I thought was incredibly BS, because that is why I thought our relationship had been working out so well.

The sex part is just a part of those problems as we've never had intercourse in the 10 years we've been dating. That's wouldn't be a problem, per se, if we had chosen it to be that way, but we didn't, there were problems that appeared in that aspect and she's unwilling to even talk about them, even though she has my full support and comprehension. 

Don't get me wrong though, she is my best friend and i'm really glad for it. If she wasn't, this relationship wouldn't last 10 years, I wouldn't have moved halfway across the country to be with her and live near her for the past 8 years and try to spend each moment that I can with her. She's the person that I most love in this world and I can't see me with anyone else.

It just hurts sometimes when you're willing to put everything you have in a relationship for someone and see that the same isn't reciprocated, in some aspects, at all.