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ice on 07 October 2013
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Tom3k said:

iceland said:

Everything would be less complicated, I consider myself bi but more of the gay side. I'm still "closeted" I fear that my Christian family will not accept me, my friends will no longer talk to me, gay hate crimes, etc. Finding someone is a challenge within itself because you can't really tell unless someone is the "stereotypical" gay type (no offense to those guys). I'd love to be fully straight, I've gotten many offers from women it's just that they're not my type. If I was "normal" I'd probably be happy dating someone like everyone else I know, It's been unbelievably stressful. 

I think that you should talk with someone. A councelor, therapist...

But from my point of view things are usually as complicated as you make them. I was much happier when I realized that I'm living my life, for myself. Not for my mom, or my Catholic family. My friends however are really great about it, as is my brother. Hate crimes? Hate crimes happen all the time, not just towards LGBT people. There's no point living your life in fear simply because there are idiots in this world. Well, if you want to find a gay guy to date, you should either frequent places where gay people go, or use social apps targeted at gay people. There's like billion of them, and yes most of them are glorified hook-up apps, but believe me there are people looking for same things as you on those apps as well.

If you haven't realized by now you are normal. You just happen to be gay. I would love to be taller... But you can't change the cards you've been dealt to play this game called life. So deal with it. When you "accept" yourself for what you are, when you learn to love youself for who you are, and when you stop living your life in shame/fear... You'll be much happier and healthier person.


Trust me, I try to tell myself things aren't that bad... as for the whole dating thing there aren't any places like that around here, I'd have to travel a good distance which I can't really do ATM. As for apps and sites, I've lurked on them but I have like a phobia of putting myself on one, that goes for looking for females also so it's not really a gay thing. I might have to work on breaking that though, I used the term "normal" very loosely, in terms of society's expectations. I do accept it to a degree I just don't want to ruin everything if that makes since. I believe things will get better eventually, just to think all this was because of something I can't help. Thanks for the reply!