Are you straight, Bi, or gay? Now with *slightly* nsfw pics. :)

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Scisca said:

Tom3k said:

Scisca said:

Now let's not pretend that's not true. I've spent some time this holiday around a gay dude from Italy and even my sister who is very girly felt he was more feminine than she is (yes he was). Not every gay guy is like that, but a fair number is, so don't act so indignant and disbelieving what you see. On top of that almost all gay guys have these characteristic hand movements that normal guys can't even really imitate, cause your moves are too soft and delicate, thus feminine and girly.

That's some serious sterotyping. Nobody said that more "feminine" gay guys don't exist, they do, and they have every right to express themselves as they see fit. But they aren't vast majority within gay community... They don't reflect typical behavior of gay guys... Since there isn't a typical behavior for either gay or straight. We don't get a membership card and a DVD with arm gestures that we need to learn once we "come out". But to say that there aren't as you've said "soft and delicate" straight guys would be also a lie. I've know poeple for whom I would have sworn that they are gay, but they ended up happily married to girls. As much as I hate the term "straight acting" since nobody really acts anything, most gay people "behave" just like everybody else.

So as you say - they exist, the number of girly gays is larger than that of girly straight guys and thus I see nothing surprising in the original quote, nothing that would validate going with: "Uh... Are you serious?"

As to the hand gesture - just in my place of work there are 5 gays and only 1 of them doesn't do that smooth soft movement with his hands even though not a single one of them is the ultra feminine type. Also the way they stand sometimes, their pose, it often clearly indicates they are gay, cause straight guys just don't stand in such a manner. You may believe it or not, but there is this characteristic behaviour that you guys have, doesn't matter if you learn it from a DVD or not :P I'm not saying every single one does that, but the majority - absolutely. I've been dating a bisexual girl for 4 years and she was very much into this whole LGBT stuff, so I've had plenty of time to do my observations and I just see this stuff.

Geez your stereotyping and generalizing is incredible. Seriously. Of course those feminine gays exist, nowhere did I ever claim they didn't. Did I? No. I didn't.

But blatantly claiming -as if it's a fact- that most gays are that way, is simply not true. It's not, and that's a fact. Just because you may have some noticed gays acting that way doesn't mean those were all the gsy guys you ever met/saw. I am gay and I've met a LOT of other gay guys, and most are just as straight looking and acting as every other heterosexual guy. Of course there are girly and very very slightly girly gays, but there are many more that aren't. Please don't confuse your own 'experiences' with facts, especially when they're so wrong. Unless you've asked every male you ever met if they're gay, because I can guarantee you that you've come across -tons- of males who were gay, and you never knew.