| FrancisNobleman said: @Dr. Grass you are one of my favourite users on this website, because I think you are actually really smart, knowledgeable about your posts and respectable, quite the opposite of many others in here. For all that, I appreciatte your presence. Thank you. But what you wrote - and are only words I'm sure a conversation could sound different - sounds a little arrogant from your side, and I said a little, it's totally ok, not calling you a scumbag, but you give me the impression of being overconfident. But that's actually a better thing than being the opposite. at a point you say "The super rich flashy girls should mostly be avoided." but yet, you're turning yours into one because you "bought her a surfboard, a silver chain mail jacket from India (it's gorgeous), clothes, groceries etc. etc." It's not a bad thing to spoil your lady. But I think that is too much. In my opionion. The way I see things is quite simple. Pretty much every man would bang an attractive woman, just because. If she was attractive and had a good personality and responsability in life, then that's wife material. It works around for the female sex too. If you're good looking, rocking some nice abs, you're gonna get laid even if you're retarded and a complete douchebag. Because you're hot and woman like to bang hot buddies too. Now, if you have goals set in life, know your place and where you wanna go and how to go, be respectable and humble, knowlegeable and great sense of humor, then you become a mentor, a providor, a protector of her interests and her life. That's what I personally feel woman want. And my special tip about gifts: Yes, I like to spoil too, but just once in a year (outside the obvious xmas and bday events) with a gift totally out of nowhere, crafted by myself, that can be useful and she totally loves it because it is exclusive and has tremendous sentimental value. Example: I made to my ex a notebook (when we were still in a relationship), because she loves to write, but I did it myself and carved a picture of her recently dead dog on the front hard cover of the book, and on the back, a picture of her. The hard book, was not randomly chosen, it was a piece of wood from the same species of tree her grandfather (also dead) planted to her in her backyard. We broke up because I've moved to Norway, but boy, she is keeping that gift for the rest of her life. And won't ever forget me, I'm sure. People give more value to that as time passes, than to materialistic presents, that get worn out or outdated in a couple months. It's the ability of touching in someone's inner being, with such a humble gift (it cost me like 10€ and about 15 hours work), a humble attitude yet secure and reliable, and relaxed, funny, dreamy personality. That's how I am, that's my style. My 2 cents :) Awesome thread, by the way. Also, I give my seal of approval to weedlab's avatar. Damn. |
Thanks for the compliments and the sincere critique!
I think I have misrepresented myself in the above. Here's my clarification in a later post:
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"I haven't spent that much money on things for her at all! I include in the "spoiling" category things like picking her flowers myself and leaving a little letter with them when I leave her place. All of my gifts have been very tasteful. The surfboard was an impulse buy. I am teaching her how to surf and I couldn't resist.
Actually, you make an invaluable point: Spoiling a girl rotten is not a recipe for success" **** In other words I agree about the spoiling part! I love doing thoughtful things like sending her a snail mail or leaving little drawings and poetic words at her place before I leave. I do still feel that she should be overwhelmed by what you offer her, but that does NOT imply a lot of money spent at all! I've bought her two expensive things; a surfboard and that amazingly beautiful chain mail jacket (seriously, it looks like something an elf would wear in LOTR!). I live RIGHT by the beach and go surf like 4 times a week, so that board pretty much stays at my place and I surf it too. It's not as bad (the spoiling!) as you think it is! But I do always try and pick up the bill when eating out and going for drinks, because a) I'm the man, b) I'm 7 years older than she is and c) if we stay together then I'm going to get TONS of money out of the union, so I don't mind. Ok, that point's behind us...
| The super rich flashy girls should mostly be avoided." but yet, you're turning yours into one |
Oh no not at all! We cook at home (we both love cooking - now there's a way into a girl's heart 
) most of the time. She's super earthy and not flashy at all. She's the least bespoke about her parent's money of anyone I've ever met. It's quite a drawing card for me. She paints and exercises and works in the garden and cleans her house herself etc. I see how you guessed the above, but it's super far away from the fact!
| sounds a little arrogant from your side |
I know it comes across like that. Suppose nothing can be said or done if you don't know me in person. It's much easier to (try to) be objectively frank here, since it's just words on a screen and strangers that are interacting. But I am serious; Girls literally offer themselves to me on a regular basis without me doing much at all. It's part of the equation in the OP, so that's why I included it. Suppose I shouldn't have. Sorry.
| That's how I am, that's my style. My 2 cents :) |
I'm more like that than you might have garnered from the OP! Indeed, I'm actually flamboyantly romantic most of the time. I'm not a player at all. I like connecting with a girl.
