| Weedlab said: I suspected you learned similar principles I did, and anow I am totally sure  That's why I asked about the asshole part in particular. When I was field testing I found being nice hardly ever worked. It's ironic since most of them respond positively to some form of negative behavior (more like good with a hint of negative), and the more beautiful the woman the more I find this true. "DON'T (for the love of God) ever make her even think that you're a pathetic, needy, weak man and that you need her." i couldn't agree more. Weakness KILLS attraction. If she sees you as weak she will walk. I'm less sure on the spoiling part. I don't do that personally. I will admit I did that with my last GF to a certain extent, but that was well after I established the desire to form a union. I find they tend to lose respect if you do that too soon, but they're quick to brand you as cheap if you don't spend - both of which are bad - so it has always been a delicate balance for me. Glad to know you are faring well. :) I would too based on your description. I'm finding myself in a similar situation, but it is much too soon for me to gauge my interest and determine if I want to settle down with her, but for now I'm going with the flow. My target is a bit younger than I, so I'm expecting maturity issues. That's the deal breaker for me really. I'll keep bumping this tread to compare. |
I enjoyed your post ;)
"When I was field testing I found being nice hardly ever worked."
Of course that doesn't work! You don't want to be a Volvo, you want to be a fucking Porsche or Ferrari. Or better, an Aston Martin I didn't put this in the OP, but literally the biggest factor I've learnt in all my years is that they go crazy over a guy who is very detached. You know, renunciation... They can sense that you'd be able to walk away from this and be fine. That's a little hard to explain over a wall of text, but it's something I meditate on regularly.
Nice guys give the impression that they are weak sometimes. The idea (imo) is to be a bit of a bad-ass and a nice guy at the same time. Like my angle would be that I'm a Nuclear Physicisit, ex-monk, surfer who lives with videogame developers and smokes a shit load of weed. I think my CV alone gets me a lot of attention. Go and play guitar or paint or do something outside of the basement and once you differentiate yourself from the pack you'll be sought after like cheese on nachos haha.
