the-pi-guy said:
Mr Khan said:
Soleron said:
the-pi-guy said:
Japan always seems to have the weirdest stuff, especially when it comes to girls. Is it difficult to find a girlfriend over there or...? |
They have a very homogenous society. If you don't fit into normal, you will find it harder to meet someone similar.
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Diverted standards. Women have certain standards of men that men no longer want to meet, while men have certain standards of women that they no longer want to meet, so it is getting harder for the two to meet in the middle.
Namely, many on both sides are looking for the standard "middle class dream," of finding "a man with a good job to be the breadwinner" and a "housewife who will make a good home for the man and raise their children." Women want to be more career-oriented now than men want them to be, and men, ironically, want to be *less* career oriented now than women expect them to be.
Plus there is an insane degree of asexuality and/or mere romantic apathy going on in Japan right now, where a lot of both genders are just saying "fuck it, i have no interest in romance."
//Interesting, if I can ask, how do you know this though?
(a side note, this is why breadwinner guys from the West can do better in terms of finding Japanese women, as we've better adapted to the idea of a dual-breadwinner household, both meeting their expectations for men and indulging their more independent aspirations).
//You mean there's a chance!?
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1) Anthropology class i took during my study abroad semester, which focused on a number of contemporary social issues in Japan, including shifts in the ideal male and female roles. This also contributes to Japan's low birth-rate, as there is strong pressure on mothers to give up their jobs to raise their children, so Japanese women just don't have kids to focus on their career instead. If a daycare upbringing were less stigmatized, surely there'd be more women willing to have kids.
2) Yes. Just watch out for gold-diggers, as a lot of Japanese women are under the delusion that all Westerners are rich.
