| Nyleveia said: Im acting like he felt the way he does now the moment he saw her in person but fucked her anyway like an asshole, which is exactly what he did.
People are calling him shallow and a scumbag, not because he isnt physically attracted to her, but because he didnt act on KNOWING this the moment he met her, and strung her along anyway, most likely for the sex. and if youre saying thats the way men are hard wired, and we should excuse the times men sleep with girls theyre not attracted to and dont even want to be seen with, all because theyre men, then fuck you too. |
But I look it at it another way. In spite her misleading online images, from what I read Attaboy gave her a shot to see if it would work out, because he had chemistry with here. He even says somewhere on the board they treated it as some sort of relationship on the internet. How many times have you heard a girl giving a guy that's not in her league a chance, because he's funny or whatever other reason. Heck, look at all the sitcoms that have some ugly or fat male lead married to some woman who is a 10. In society, it's alright if a girl warms up to a guy who may not initially be her type but if a guy tries to and it doesn't work, he's labeled a scumbag or shallow. Like I said, double standards.
People on this message board are acting like this was a case of wham bam, thank you mam, but what I read it to be was someone giving a relationship a chance despite not being attracted to her than realizing the lack of attraction was too big of a problem to ignore. The sex part was one of the issues, not a sleazy campaign to bed some girl he didn't have an attraction to. And contrary to what many here see it as, I see it as dating. You go out with someone, you enjoy their company. Sometimes it leads to sex, other times not. If it does lead to sex but the relationship ultimately leads to nowhere, that doesn't mean anyone was using anyone. It means the relationship didn't work. The way you phrase it, the OT is some predator, but he may just have been a confused guy looking for something more (why a lot of people go online to date) and ultimately not finding it but not wanting to hurt the girl in the process.
Btw, I do not condone guys preying on girls to get easy sex. I am in a relationship with a girlfriend of 3 and a half years, have not and do not want to cheat on her, and we're bestfriends. I respect women. I just don't think the OP scammed this girl like you and others seem to believe. He expressed himself honestly and even though it may have offended some, he wasn't saying anything that would embarrass this girl, because this is the internet and no one knows her! I just think he was trying to paint the picture the way he saw it and how he felt.
That's how I feel, but you are entitled to your own opinion. However, I never did implie that we should excuse men every time they sleep with someone they're not attracted to nor do I appreciate being cursed out for expressing my opinion. But in what world should I expect civility on an internet forum? Crazy of me, huh? If you're a scorned lover reacting to this post out of some personal experience, it may not be because of your attraction level. It may be because of that abrasive attitude.
