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Kwaidd on 04 August 2013
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NintendoPie said:
Nem said:

Heres the secret to a good relationship: You solve your problems together.

It is incredibly shallow to dump her because of her looks. You can also help her lose weight. I'm sure shes not happy about it either.

If you do dump her, i dont know how old you are, but in a few years you will regret it. Finding a good person to be with isnt easy. The Miss pefect you are expecting most probably doesnt exist. You will end up alone if you're overly picky.

I agree with this. You can help her in this situation. You said she obviously knows she's fat (and she probably doesn't want to be) so why not try to help her instead of leaving her on her own? Don't be a jerk like that, just try to help her.

Mention that you guys could work out at the gym together. I personally enjoy working out with people, maybe she will too.

If you actually like this woman and she actually cares for you back and treats you well, don't throw it away.  Finding a long lasting mutually supportive relationship is not an easy challenge and hot body doesn't mean happiness long term if her attitude sucks.  Use this advice above, and put effort into a relationship that is worth working for.  If you work out, try to involve her as something you guys can do together.  Part of your daily routine...part of your relationship.  Road bike together, go for walks...not just the typical gym stuff blasted right into her face from the beginning...work it in.  Be involved with the cooking if she enjoys that, and find recipes together that are delicious and healthy...there are a ton of them out there these days.

Then, if you have honestly tried these options for a worthy amount of time and she is unwilling to put any effort forth, then you have a leg to stand on.  If she won't make any effort to become an active part of your lifestyle, then I would say you could reasonably tell her that the relationship isn't working for you and you'd be right to do so.

In the meantime, heed the wisdom found in the classic Spinal Tap song.  "The bigger the cushion, the sweeter the pushin'...the thicker the waistband, the deeper the quicksand".