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Soleron on 02 July 2013
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-CraZed- said:
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You absolutely have no idea what a marriage killer is. Give me one study where 'bad sex' has contributed to the death of marriage. Heck just by your rationale, if two virgins meet and get married how would they know what bad sex even is? The fact of th ematter is money, differing value systems, lack of trust, addictions, PAST RELATIONSHIPS and lack of physical intimacy (not bad sex they are different) or infidelity are all the top reasons marriages fail.

Premises: 1. Love is emotional and physical. 2. Sex is emotional and physical. All of the emotional problems you listed can affect the emotional part of sex. The lack of fulfilling sex can affect the physical part of love. You just can't seperate sex from a relationship like that.

I underlined and bolded past relationships as people who have premartial sex and relationships that are a so-called right of passage are a major issue for many people.  Which you so eloquently tried to claim is somehow the way to better relationships. Sorry but you are misguided.

People need practice of every other social skill to become proficient. Why is love/sex something that would be automatic with the first time? Pre-marriage relationships are great preparation. Primarily they teach you that you're dealing with a complex human being and not an object of fulfillment. Do you really want the first time someone does something to be after they've made a lifelong commitment? What if they're not compatible?

I am far from some bible thumping zealot I haven't been to church since I was a kid. But I do know that there are many positives associated with many of the so-called fuddy duddy stuff associated with many religious practices such as waiting for marriage to have sex. Heck just the fact that you avoid unwanted pregnancy and STDs ought to be enough for anyone to steer clear.

Abstitence-only sex education has a worse success rate than one that includes contraception. This is because, sure, while ideally zero sexual contact is zero transmission, people make mistakes. Even very well intentioned people. Unless you demand that people are perfect all of the time, moral teachings that only emphasise the religious principles are not effective enough.