How to Get Over a Friend's Betrayal?

[Fifaguy360]

Einsam_Delphin said:

Fifaguy360 said:

Einsam_Delphin said:

Fifaguy360 said:
I think having high expectations in humans is dangerous because they're bound to let you down sooner or later.

Keep expectations lower so you don't get burned and do your own thing.

I really don't think simply being there for a friend is a high expectation at all. Infact it's part of what being a friend is, well a true friend anyways. Nowadays it seems people throw around the term friend too loosely. Heck I even do it, though it's only to not upset my "friends."

That's the part that got the OP. She is my true friend because I helped her in need so I expected her to be there for me. If we remove these expectations of casual friend, true friend, family then there is no let down and you've mentally prepared yourself for the worst without relying on people to intervene.

Expectations or not, a jerk move is still a jerk move. Just cause you expected X jerk move, that doesn't make it any less hurtful. A person is either your friend or they're not. You can expect whatever out of them, but that's not what determines whether they're a friend or not. It's their actions, how they treat you, etc., that determines this. The OPer seems to have thought that being a friend to someone makes them your friend, but that's clearly not always the case. Of course we don't know the details, but I'm willing to bet the OP's friend never really was a true friend, despite that likely being what they called each other. All expectations do is let you see, in this case, the pain coming beforehand, and possibly let you avoid it, but if it hits, it'll hurt all the same. Hope all this made sense!

If there was an expectation to receive help from her and she declined, it would hurt more than if she didn't expect the help from her to begin with because you wouldn't be let down by her.