So me and my gf just broke up

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sales2099 said:

HesAPooka said:

sales2099 said:
9 years? please enlighten me how you could break up after that long?

Because I have been with my gf for 2.5 years so far and it is scary to think that even long term relationships such as yours are able to fall apart. I see mine going the distance but stories such as yours make me wonder.

Care to explain what exactly made it end?

It's quite simple. Not everyone stays together simply because it's safe and they are doing "pretty good". Some people break up because they want passion again. Some people want more. They feel they can find someone where the passion will last forever.

Huh, from every 20+ married couple Ive heard from, the passion tends to die off eventually, as the "honeymoon phase" rarely lasts a lifetime. But the love will always remain, and the relationship you build through the tough times will be enough to last well into retirement when your sex drive is all but eliminated. I dunno, everybodies different.

Well, the passion lasted a very long time. And the love is still there. What's not there is the maturity. We both need to explore new opportunities. She needs to gain financial stability and emotional independence, and I need to get myself organized and focused. We can't really do that together because, as some people might understand, it's hard to change in the presence of another. Finding a groove with someone just as easily becomes a rut.