So me and my gf just broke up

[JoeFlex]

theprof00 said:

JoeFlex said:

theprof00 said:

Seems like we were in a very similar situation. I could've written that exact post. Except, I was definitely in love, just not the right kind of love that makes intimate relationships work.

And you're 100% right about that. All these college girls are ridiculous.

Was it not reciprocal then? Elaborate, if u don't mind. I might have been at one point, but I noticed I loved her more than she loved me at year 2 or 3, so I dropped some of those feelings lol Or at least I trained myself to. That's a dangerous situation to be in - when you're in deeper than the other person. At one point it seemed as if I was diving and she was doggy paddling. I'm not up for that shit. All in or bust.

Seems like you two were on different wave lengths. Well ... at least you can be friends. Mind deleted me on Skype, Twitter, Whatsapp .... everything.

Well, I don't want to get into all the messy details, but the long and short of it was that I wasn't happy and looked to other people (girls) for companionship. I mean, I didn't cheat on her, but I definitely kissed some girls and partied a lot because I just wasn't getting that kind of attention at home. It was just like one headache after another. It was almost as if my sole existence was just to make her feel good. There was no reciprocity, just me worrying about her bills, and constant unwarranted criticism.

At one point, early on I did love her more than she loved me, and she broke my heart, breaking up with me for another guy. After we got back together in like, year 3, she loved me more.

But yeah, we started on the same page and just somehow ended up on different wavelengths. That's exactly the right phrase. She just stopped being my girlfriend and was just more like a roommate who I had sex with and hung out with.

PS: When I say I loved, and still love her, I mean as a person. Not only is she beautiful, and smart, and funny, her personality is just so great. We COULD be best friends, so long as the 'responsibilities' of a relationship didn't exist....if that makes sense to you.

Yea, it’s funny how that happens. I am not ashamed to admit it but I cheated on mine for those reasons. I was faithful for 3 straight years, and then I got fed up. Ladies have been coming my way for years and I kept ignoring them. I figured, if she was being selfish and self-absorbed I might as well be selfish too. I felt bad at first, and I opted not to do it again, but she grew more persistent in her ways .. so you know Jin go lo ba. When your GF is not making you feel your worth and other people are doing it, there is bound to be problems.

I think a difference between our situations might be the involvement with parents. Everything you described seems similar, but mine was too beholden to her parents. It was like a 4 person relationship. And that was very influential in the relationship’s demise. Everything we did had to go through them. Wtf? Felt like a kid from the Mickey Mousy Club in a make believe relationship.

 

As I tell the lady friends … don’t worry if your man is arguing or mad in a bad situation. Worry when he says nothing if he’s displease or after a shit storm. He (or she) will remedy the situation in time – either by cheating or setting up the foundation to leave.

Okay I got you. Then I feel the same.  You love her as in you care for her and what not, but not necessarily ‘in love’ with her, no?

 

Did she accept you as a gamer?