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Horrorfest on 03 May 2013
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Slimebeast said:

You come here and open your heart, even admit you've had acne and depression but you mostly just get criticized for not being thankful to your stepdad. I think that's wrong.

Your stepdad sounds like a jerk. Either that or he has issues like being a little depressed himself, feeling insufficient and stuff. Hopefully he has issues rather than just being a jerk because then there's hope for an improved relationship between you.

He shouldn't come into your household and dominate.

People in this thread say he doesn't have any obligations to help you with stuff. Perhaps not with the driving licence, but he should adapt to the family's needs, including your needs.

If you are a young sensitive lonesome guy he should take that into account and behave in a sensible manner.

He should be aware that by him being jobless he is an exhausting factor to his surroundings by constantly being around in your house.

Continuous verbal harassment is very serious. It can make anybody go bananas and pick up the nearest axe and let it dance.

He also had the stomach to hit the family dog. You could have punished him right there and I wouldn't have condemned it.

The thing is, it's not as if I've never thanked him for doing something for me. I have whenever he did. He certainly did teach me a lot when he talk me out driving and I never once wasn't thankful. I said earlier in the thread how one time I grew fed up with him and told him off. Well he came up to me and let me take the car out for a drive with him and I apologize as soon as we got in the car and I explained everything to him.

I mentioned too he cooked. Most of the time I wouldnt thank him for it because he cooks anyways and offers for me to eat (then many times I fend for myself which I have no problem with). It is not like he makes me lunch and dinner every day. I don't even think he's ever made me lunch so I don't sit and ask him for handouts but whenever he really made a good meal for dinner I would tell him. 

He had made some amazing chicken alfredo once and I complinted him and told him that was one of the best meals I've ever had and he was quite touched by it. I gave him a suggestion to him that he should make it more often. He didn't do it again (why I don't know) but I am not ungrateful. I'm just not going to be friendly with someone who harassed me. At times we got along and were even close but everything else happened like I mentioned.

I know he definitely has issues and especially after I learned after the fact something bad he went through as a kid which sucked because even though he brought it on himself I didn't know his issues were as bad. Still, I have gone through hell nearly my entire life and I don't try to take it out on anyone because that's wrong. If I get shit thrown at me I certainly throw it back (at least doing everything to keep my comments to myself not out loud) but I don't go looking to start any fights or tension,

I'm stuck at my sisters house at the moment so I figured I would give another reply. As I said, I will talk to him if and when he wants. I won't forgive him but for my families sake and because we were close at one point I am willing to try to talk it out. I won't live with him and my mother again or anything like that but I have no problems making the situation better.