A Major Issue that Needs to be Addressed by Moderators

[Marucha]

bananaking21 said:

Marucha said:

Ok I have completely lost track of where this thread has gone lol...

I really don't see anymore need for me to say anything. I have pretty much made my point. Nobody seems to want to put on different glasses to see if a compromise can be made. I think many good points were made... I agree with Rol, and I'm sorry, not going to go find the post to quote it... but I think that yes, not ALL posts should be deleted lol... but, definitely, ones taking the lead to put the thread in a very bad direction or outright encouraging aggressive behavior, they need to be at least edited (that portion deleted).

.... I have already more or less pulled back from the forums just by my own reactive nature and I just don't see a point to continue the argument where there is none. If the moderators don't care, then there's no solution.

its really not fair to say the mods dont care. while i mostly agree with you on this matter its really not right to say the mods dont care. they really do a lot of work to keep this community running and i personally think they do a great job. the thing is that to keep it running they simply cant please everybody, just like kentor explained in his post. i really think you shouldnt just give on the forums, there are a lot of great users on here and the mods are really good people. i would suggest that you, and the other females who are bothered by this subject personally talk to axumblade and kentor, make it clear that it isnt an issue just with you, but with most of the females on the site. then a solution might be found. but its not really fair to say the mods dont care when everything they do on the site they do to make the community better and help it

That has been done. I mentioned it in the OP. It does not matter what we say, we have no say in the matter. I'm not the type to leave in a storm, but I have been leaving gradually... it's just matter of nature... I've created a safe haven for us off this site and there are so many female unfriendly aspects to this site, that I really can't in good faith encourage them to put up with it if it bothers them so much.... put in this position, I am kinda speaking for the group already in even just making my overall point.

I don't personally begrudge the moderators individually. I just think it's f-ed up the actual system. I don't know why the system is the way it is. I have not been here long enough to understand the patterns of everything that goes on on this site... I basically stay out of everything that is drama drenched on this site so I easily am out of the loop.

My point is, I have seen lots of people, like me... post less... male and female... take breaks from the site, because of lack of quality posts and stealth trolling. It does occur. Being dismissive and not addressing the criticisms made here does not actually address the problem. And actually, it is really fair to say the moderators don't care... when you have reported, raised hell in PM, and yet still have to put up with other people taunting you with "COme on whatever" attacks on your purpose of actually posting anytime you raise so much a finger... you feel like nobody gives a crap.

This thread pretty much cements it for me. I don't feel guilty about it, because I made an actual effort to get the girls to get along here. So far, I am seeing nothing but complete resistance to the idea that apparently... a moderator does have the power to do something about growing intolerances... but instead we shield stealth trolling? This makes no sense to me. And why should it?