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[roam]

SnowPrince said:

roam said:

In my opinion, if you want to identify as that, then do so.  At its narrowest definition, asexuality is a complete lack of sexual desire/attraction.    But generally speaking, its a pretty broad collection of people with all sorts of positions.   If you feel out of place with any other labels and find comfort in the idea of using asexual to describe yourself, then I would recommend you do so. 

For me personally,  when I came across the concept of asexuality some years ago online, it was a moment of realization.  It was not an idea I had been familiar with beforehand and I typically just felt other things didn't accurately describe who I was/am so rejected "labels" in general.   I don't feel sexual attraction about 99% of the time, but I can in the right situation.  I enjoy sex somtimes, even if I don't feel that sort of attraction to someone.  Some asexuals abhor the idea of sex.  I still want to find a relationship, probably with a guy because I absolutely hate women, eventhough when I was younger I had a couple crushes that included girls.  Some asexuals do not wish relationships.  I think there are actually a couple asexual dating sites even. 

You know, i'm somehow growing up to be just like you. I too have dated couple girls (2 to be precise), but i've had litterally zero interest in having sex with one of them, I started opening to the "males" world sometime later, and felt awkwardly attracted. Then three years ago, the day i've had the chance to "date" if we could call it so, because it was just a friend who turned out to be a sex addict, while we've been playing some video games, we did kiss but he wanted to go further, I did not like it and nothing happened eventually, since that day i knew somehow that it was not about gender but for me lacking any se desire. But still, i would rather consider men than women. So no changes are required, isn't it ?

NB: How on earth, those dating sites exist if asexual people aren't interested in such relationships ?!

Some do.  Romantic asexual vs aromantic asexual, and so the romantic ones desire that sort of companionship still.  Which could become incredibly awkward and uncomfortable if they were trying to date a sexual person.  :)