My ex came to see her kids for the first time in two years- first night at a hotel with them she braided my daughters hair like a Ghetto child and gave my boys earrings....

[justinian]

I do not know what to make of such threads. Some part of me will find it strange to discuss such details of my personal life (kids) with total and random internet strangers. Maybe it's because I hated shows like Springer and think anyone that partake in them to be lacking in intelligence. - No relevance to the OP of course.

I suppose no one knows who you are and vice versa so it is somewhat different. Maybe it is better this way and someone on this forum have an answer you would like. Strange as it all seems to me.
Hope you find your answer.

Apologizes for not being more helpful but I wanted to have my insignificant say.