My ex came to see her kids for the first time in two years- first night at a hotel with them she braided my daughters hair like a Ghetto child and gave my boys earrings....

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I agree. I don't know if it was all her fault or her decision not to see the kids in 2 years, but IF that's actually the case you shouldn't allow her to have any influence on your kids at all. It sounds like she doesn't give a damn and only came back to "play with dolls" for a while.