My ex came to see her kids for the first time in two years- first night at a hotel with them she braided my daughters hair like a Ghetto child and gave my boys earrings....

[foivosfoivos]

She is a bitch. A good mother does not leave her own children for that long. She should not be such a big influence to them. Your children have been growing up in a certain way. And it is not right for them to be changed just for their mother's pleasure. So, protect your kids and make it clear to her to stay put. After all, the day she is going to leave the kids (again) will come. Parents' actions have a huge impact on young children.