My ex came to see her kids for the first time in two years- first night at a hotel with them she braided my daughters hair like a Ghetto child and gave my boys earrings....

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Their is nothing more douche bag than kids(boys) with earings. Change that at the very least.

For everything else, it is hard to tell since I have'nt seen the cloths and I tend to think that braided hair look good at any age. But braided hair is alot of work to keep it that way I think, so I doubt you will bother keeping it (I would'nt).