MrBubbles said:
your action was intentional. you didnt just accidentally bump into her while walking on the street. you deliberately put your hands on her. you chased her down, you got in her way, you tried to stop her with your body, then you put your hands on her. by her not stopping it was clear indication she would not consent to being touched by you. regardless of what you wanted to do... a reasonable person would look upon this and realize that she didnt want to be touched.
although you would be technically guilty of assaulting her... i dont see how exactly she would have anything to gain from a civil case. it wasnt severe, you didnt cause her any suffering other than momentary discomfort, providing youve left her alone and not harassed her since... there does not seem to be grounds for a civil case. in the likelihood of a criminal case i would expect minimal punishment, if it even makes it that far. the prosecutor/police could just drop the matter if you agree to stay away from her and not have any contact with her anymore (which is my advice anyways).
to sum up: you are technically guilty of a crime. you likely wont suffer because of it. just leave the psycho alone... :) |
What do you believe was my true intention? To scare her? To threaten her? No way. The act of hugging was intentional solely to get her to hug me back, comfort me, and just be my friend again. That was my sole objective with the hug. There were no bad intentions. Not even minimal. If she sees how sad and sorry I truly am, maybe the small spark of love that flounders within will ignite and things will get better. Maybe she would've reacted and change her mind about wanting to be left alone. These things happen in the movies all the time and girls can be very complicated sometimes. It was a tactic; a risk that I went for that backfired. I didn't know what else to do. I stopped hugging her once I realized she really wanted me to. Perhaps I should've known better. Maybe I was being unreasonable because I was emotionally overwhelmed and just wasn't thinking clearly. I never would've hugged her if I knew it wouldn't have worked. Why else would I have done it?
Remember, the intention has to cause a reasonable and imminent apprehension of a harmful or offensive contact which is unconsented. It only would've been offensive and unconsented had I persisted after realizing she really wanted me to stop. I know a reasonable person would've realized before but I saw the movie play out in my head and that's what I went for. Besides, the last time we talked on the phone, she got super jealous when I told her I was dating someone else. She even jokingly asked me to dump the girl in front of her. That's why I believed she still wanted to be my friend again. That's why I believed the hug would work. It all really messed with my mind. Especially her randomly ignoring me again. The hug was never harmful and even if there was any imminent apprehension, which I really doubt there could've been from an apologetic hug, I don't believe there was a reasonable amount. Even if I did all of the above, that was not my intention. How could it have been if I just wanted her to stop ignoring me and be my friend again? I was never even angry. I only shifted from being sad to forcibly calm.
I did coincidentally spot her while walking. We live about five minutes away from each other. She never ran and talked to me for a bit. She did randomly sprint between walking though. When I walked in front of her, I did put my hand out to try to stop her for a bit. She kept trying to get past and I did gently push her back a few times before letting her go once I realized she just didn't want to talk to me. I only held her with the hug. Looking back, I think she was running a bit late to school. Everything seemed fine the previous week. We had even planned to hang out a few days prior. She told me I had to bring my date though. Yeah, weird, I know. Then, at the last minute, she told me, via Facebook, that she couldn't because she was sick and randomly ignored me again. I was left in the dark and really wanted some answers. This is the same girl that cheated on me. I have moved on but I just want some more answers regarding this. I hate feeling like a bad guy.
