| Chunli said: My two cents on this topic is that the forum has been going downhill ever since the announcement of the PS4. Why this forum is amazing is because it brings us gamers together regardless of which console we prefer. We all come from different backgrounds, different countries. So why not celebrate our love of gaming together instead of having the need to bash people's opinions and their choice of consoles. Yes drama = entertainment. But do we want entertainment at the expense of other people's suffering? And these people that you might have offended due to your harsh words is very much a person like you. With feelings. We're not just someone from the internet. We're real people. And that that person who you bullied might just have had the worst day of his/her life. Perhaps he/she lost his job, or lost a family member, quarreled with a loved one. And the nasty things you said just made that person feel worse. Some of you may think "Oh I am only nasty to people on the internet. I am actually nice in person". How you treat people, even on the internet is a clear reflection of what kind of person you REALLY are. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS AN ONLINE AND OFFLINE PERSONA. It is the same with people who say "Oh I'm the office tyrant at work and all my workers fear me. But at home, I'm really nice." What is the point of being nice only at home? Why are you only nice "in real life"? All of our actions leaves footprints in other people's hearts. Eventually all of us will die. Some of us will live to a hundred, some of us might get into an accident and die tomorrow, some of us are on borrowed time. How do you want to be remembered as a person over here should you die? How do you want to be remembered as a person amongst your friends and family? What kind of footprints did you leave on people's hearts after your life on earth is over? It is always easy to be nasty to others. It doesn't take effort. How many of you shouted at your family today? What about the past week/month? When you're nasty to others, you're just being a coward. You're taking the easy way out. Because being nasty is the easy way out when dealing with problems and differing opinions. Being good is hard mode. That's why we have to struggle everyday to do good. To learn to accept and appreciate that people are different from us is hard. But that's what we have to do if we want to stop the Vicious Cycle. Alot of people say "Ahhh...I'm trapped in this vicious cycle...screw it I'm just going to be nasty to everyone". And things don't change. Things never improve because people think that they can't beat the vicious cycle because they are just ONE person. But all it takes is just one person's effort to change things for the better. A kind word. A smile. Hugs. Saying I Love You. I understand. I appreciate. I accept. I FORGIVE. I respect. I trust. These are the actions and words that the world is really lacking off. |
And the internet especially is lacking of it because of the anonymity complex. I appreciate your post, chunli :)
And you are right, all of it... there is no difference between Online and Offline persona, the person is fundamentally the same. Yes, we share different shades... I've done a little research into it. It's quite interesting. I don't think that fundamentally we are different people either way. We show one side versus another... but that is all. All of it is of the same mirror, just a different angle of reflection.
And the vicious cycle will continue, as long as people are provided a channel to write dishonest things and live out their internal drama... that's why I think it's so important to develop healthy tools to make the good from the poo. Which would better for our own experiences. Not continue trying to fight a current that's whole purpose for being there is to distract us from doing just that. It's good in life to learn to thicken our own skin anyway... and some people are so empathic, they miss this part to improve their tolerance.
