If you are overweight why don't you change that?

[dallas]

ArnoldRimmer said:

dallas said:
I've dealt with this problem, or my gf actually.

She's overweight, and set with an overactive thyroid which gives her heart problems so the extraextra weight just makes her heart work even harder. I've done everything to manipulate her to start working out with me, but its like pulling teeth.

Here are my latest tricks-
-telling her how jealous her lady friends will be of her when she starts losing some
-telling her how i'm going to get jealous more often bc of all the extra attention that guys will give her

the dumb bitch even has kidney problems bc she's let her blood pressure be high for a long time....bc of the overactive thyroid and the weight adding onto it.

But, its still hard to get her to do anything.


I think that some dumb fukks just like to be fat and eat a lot.

Sorry for the anger, if this offends anybody but I love her fukkin dumbass and all.

How did these "tricks" work out? I was in a very similar situation with my girlfriend once, and tried to motivate her to with similar tricks. In my case, they didn't work out at all - quite the contrary, she started eating even more. Which I believe was because no matter what I said and how nice it sounded, what I really meant was "I really wish you were thinner", and the more I started talking about the topic, the more she took it as me criticizing her, which made her feel even worse, and ultimatively caused her to eat even more. It's was a vicious circle.

So I believe your strategy is dangerous: You might win and your tactics will indeed give her the huge motivation push that these people need. But you could just as well fail, in which case you might make the situation even worse, both for you and your girlfriend.

If you want your girlfriend thinner, my advice would be not to directly fight her obesity. Because her obesity is probably just the visible effect of a personal problem(s) lying below; if you "solve" the problem(s) below, the problem(s) above will sooner or later disappear by itself.

The problems will disappear if you ignore them and provide emotional support above all else?  Nothing.

 

Some people, just like some animals (fat cats and whatnot) like to eat more than they need.  In my case, my gf only hangs around other chubby girls as they are easier to bond with and therefore it gets harder to get her to take care of herself bc she has the socalled support group. 

I ended up buying her running shoes and a gym membership and she's worked out mabey 2 times a week but lost only 11 pounds.  I could really care less about how weight as far as how she looks bc she's great in bed, she's a great fukk to have. 

The only reason that I care about weight is for her health, I want her around with me for a longer time, guess i'm selfish like that.  

 

So, I've had some success with the gym membership and whatnot but I want more effort out of her.