| IIIIITHE1IIIII said: Sexuality is one of our most ancient discussions; a topic that even after so many years still successfully tend to result in heated debates. Some think that homosexuality is wrong, others think it is perfectly fine. Some think that bi-, homo-, and heterosexuality is a choice, others think we were born to develop whatever turns out to be our sexuality (i.e. our genes decide) - or simply that our environment to some degree chose our current sexuality for us: Thus suggesting that it is, in fact, not a choice. In this thread I am going to focus on the people who believe that sexual preferences can be selected, by asking the following questions:
1. If you were to watch gay pornography, would you be able to choose to get a boner and actually enjoy the video? 2. Whenever you see a hot chick and your penis becomes erect, are you actually able to choose to stop being sexually attracted to her and "deactivate" the boner, but choose not to? 3. If yes, where the hell can I get these super powers?
Thanks in advance. |
Sexuality is a learned process, but you misunderstand how it is a learned process.
- Exposure
- Attraction
- Arousal
- Experience
The more exposure you have to something, be it non-nude pictures of attractive men or women, the more an attraction builds. With the opposite sex, it is likely more sexual in nature to begin with, but with the same sex, it begins as an attractive to features that you expressly desire of yourself. We start to assign labels on particular guys or girls that they're cute or hot. If that attraction builds, eventually you may develop an arousal related to it. Once an arousal has set in, and initially it may be for a particular individual unless one is exposed to a dearth of material, one may act on that arousal building an experience. For most of us (especially guys) this means masturbation, but it may actually mean a sexual experience. Once solidified into a sexual experience, once the link between attraction, arousal, and sexual experience has been fused there will be, forever, a sexual attraction.
If you're continually exposed to someone, without developing an attraction it doesn't mean anything. A boy can be a friend to a girl for a lifetime and never be attracted to her until someone points out what makes her attractive. From the opposite end of the spectrum, an early experience can solidify the link between attraction and arousal. However, it is less certain. While more inclined to reject an association with an early sexual experience, adoption of an attraction and arousal isn't unheard of.
To answer the questions:
1. If you're not sexually attracted to the material, you won't get an erection.
2. Your level of testosterone affects this. The younger you are, the more testosterone you have and the more likely you will get and maintain an erection. As you get older, you may get an erection, but you can also move beyond it and lose it.
3. It isn't a superpower, it's called getting old. You will, one day, come to the point where you long for the sexual arousal of your youth.
