Dating someone with kids

[GhaudePhaede010]

d21lewis said:

GhaudePhaede010 said:

Max King of the Wild said:

GhaudePhaede010 said:

d21lewis said:
She shouldn't have let you meet the kids until she's serious that you're going to be in their lives or she needs somebody to buy them Christmas presents.

That's how it works, bro.

 

 And if I personally just met someone, even if I'm 100% ready to be a father and they instantly start forcing their kid on me before I'm ready to tackle that obstacle, It's going to scare me away.  It's a red light.  It's like meeting somebody, going out on one date, and them saying "I love you".  I'm not afraid of love but going that far, that fast is going to scare the fuck out of me.

This part justifies exactly what I am trying to say. If someone is a parent, they have no choice but to, "force" their children on you because they are parents. If you see that as a red flag, then get out on day 1 because that is easier than leaving in month 3 or 4. What will end up happening is, people like you will NOT apply, and people like me will. Then she will find the man she is looking to find, and you will find a woman you are looking to find. Life is much easier that way because emotions destroy good judgment so try to keep emotions from getting too strong because the faster someone that is not interested gets out, the faster everyone can find the right person for themselves.

If you are afraid of someone saying they love you too soon, you walk away right then, and same with children. If you are pursuing a relationship today, then the children need to be involved, TODAY! If that is a red flag, get out of the way and let a different type of man apply. But it is on her to advertise it that way, because if she does not, then I do not blame TC for not being able to handle things, coming on a video game message board, and hiding from reality a bit. She must do a better job selling herself.