Please someone help me please...

[Adinnieken]

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

You need to sit down and figure out the things that you can immediately change to improve your life. Your self worth at the moment seems like it's in the tank right now, so figure out what will make you feel better about yourself. Not who, but what If you're unemployed then a job? What do you want to do, what are you interested in doing, what are you capable of doing?

Once you've figured out what you can change your situation, then write down the steps you need to do to make it happen. Once you've got the steps, work on making them happen. These are baby steps.

Don't worry about your mum's happiness, that'll likely come when you achieve yours. But once you have your plan in place, if she generally supportive of you, go to her and show her the plan. Ask her if there is anything she feels you're missing.

Don't get hung-up/offended by any snide remarks. If they come they're just there to see if you'll give her the reaction she wants. If she doesn't want to work through this with you, it does make it tougher, but you'll likely be the better for it.

Next, keep focused on making those changes. Don't let setbacks determine your success. Identify why they occurred and then address them in your steps to change.

Do not allow yourself to get sidetracked by games or the Internet. They are an easy diversion and are a trap. Especially if you are depressed. Your depression is not going to improve if your self worth doesn't improve, so avoid those trappings that prevent you from succeeding at your goals.

Stop reflecting on the past and move forward. Everybody deals with shitty people in their life, be they romances or friends. You need to move on. Your self worth likely was bad enough before current events, but those events obviously made them worse. You can't change them. So move on. They need not be a barrier to you happiness and success.

Be careful of online friendships as well. They are as much a trap as gaming or the Internet. This may be a moment where you need to go it alone for a while, figure out who you are, and sort through past mistakes. Don't dwell on the past, but take stock of the things you did which you can change for the better.

This isn't to suggest that you should abandon all friendships, but take stock of the ones that further your goals and self-worth and let go the ones that keep you from them or undo your self worth.

Hope this is well received, and good luck.