Here's the thing. These women are looking for somebody to have fun with, give them stability, etc. It's not just your life. It's their lives, too. They want to benefit from the relationship. They have an image of what a good guy is. You have to, at least, fit their mold. You don't have to be EVERYTHING they want but you have to be something! You have to consider this question: What do you bring to the table?
Do you have a great personality? Great looks? A large penis? Money? Are you going to take them places that they've never seen before? Can you sing? What is it about you that is going to make a girl excited to see you? What's going to make her think about you when you aren't around?
I may be missing something but reading the OP, it seems like the perfect woman for you is probably sitting in her house watching The Price is Right. Any woman with self respect is looking for somebody that is, at least, on her level. You're not going to get a girl that likes mountain biking, going to clubs, sporting events, and hanging out with friends if all you have to offer is sex and cable TV.
You could start selling drugs. That always works.
