AFFLICTION said:
Jumpin said:
I think meeting nice women is easier than you might think; a lot of the time it is just saying hi and having a conversation; especially at a party or a bar - but also even just out in public at the grocery store, public transit, or in a line up. While most girls probably won't want a date, there are still many who do. It really is just a matter of showing available women that you are interested. Falling in love has very little or nothing to do with how successful you are in a job, that is the ladies magazines talking - and they are wrong. People with successful jobs are not more likely to fall in love. I would say all you need is money for dinner and a few drinks (and your own place) - and a lowly job can afford that. |
While I agree with you that falling in love has little to do with job status, I don't believe that wanting to have job security before serious relationships is due to some womens magazine as you put it. As my reasoning for it is entirely personal about not feeling worthy of another without having my own affairs in order rather than according to some pre-conceived notions from whatever source.
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In my case it's a simple matter of logic. You graduate from college (or from high school, or finish a stint with the military, or whatever your threshold for independent adulthood is) then you have two big things you need to do: get a career and build a family. In some cases, the latter is easier (i've noticed on my facebook that quite some people from my high school are married or headed that way and haven't even graduated yet), but in my case, the former is, especially because me finding a career might require a good deal of relocating. While i'll certainly pick up any romantic opportunity that comes my way while i'm looking, i won't go looking for anything serious until my job is stable, which is simply because getting a stable career is enough of a burden without having to juggle the job-hunting process with a love life.
