thranx said:
my main point is that if a teen wants to be on birth control they have many avenues to do so that does not involve parents, and they do have options, I only did a quick search and i'm sure every state is slightly different but there are free options to get the pills in every state and it looks as though a parents consent is not needed, I also forgot that i have never been to a hospitial/clinic that did not offer free condoms. I would also add if you can't hold a job and get a car perhaps you should not be focusing on sex and instead on those things. I dont know if your a US citizen or not, but our view on sexualtiy and how we teach kids about is absurd. I dont think its access to the pills that is the problem, but the education behind them and sex in general. Now that i think of it though, i would blame the media the most, sex is shoved in teens faces all over the place. Sorry if the post is a little all over the place i'll try to come back and clean it up later. |
thranx, I really don't want to come off as lecturing you, because I agree with a lot of what you say, but...butt...I don't think you are approaching this from the perspective of a teenager. I quite remember what it was like being a teen, and it really did not take much to get in a girl's pants. Additionally, having been in relationships nearly all my life, I also know how fragile a girl's confidence is, and I've seen a lot of girls that I liked get easily manipulated and lied to.
I also wouldn't blame the media either. Since I am both a US and French citizen, I spent some time in France and their media is much more sexualized. In your average vogue in France there's nude women, and nudity is everywhere. All of the rest of the world is like this (generalizing). The difference here, really, is that we've managed to turn sex into a taboo, and a thing "only adults do". And when you put thsoe ideas into the fragile mindsets of teenagers, with their lack of self-confidence, naivete, misunderstanding, and nobody to talk to about it, along with a very strong foundation of rebelliousness in our media (and self-centeredness, and also the crazy hormones they put in our food) you end up with a bunch of teens who want to grow up too fast and develop tits when they're 10.
Plus a culture in which we have large suburban areas with really nothing to do (I remember being extremely bored in the rural suburban areas, and girls and drugs were natural pasttimes- which is supported by the fact that drug use is higher in suburbs than in cities), and parents who are too afraid to talk to their kids about anythign sex related....
It's a country of uninformed, hormonolly unstable, confused, bored teens whose only real options are have sex and be labeled a miscreant by a fair portion of the country, or save sex until marriage and possibly end up with someone for all the wrong reasons, sexually dissatisfied, and possibly with kids that they don't actually want yet, but are taught that condoms are evil.
It's a whole mess of a problem, and as much as I think religion is a good basis for being a god person, it really is the significant contributor to the entire situation.
I mean, please tell me you've jerked off before. Well, I was raised catholic, and partly christian and told that it wasn't only evil, but gay as well. In my teens I had significant social problems because I thought I was a pervert, and gay jokes hit me because even though I didn't like guys, I was always thinking "what if I am gay, and don't know it".
To boil it down again, the control aspect of religion, and the demeaning "undisputable biblical facts" make life very difficult, and goes very much against the natural order of things. It's no wonder that there is the commonly held term "dirty catholic schoolgirl". Those girls are the biggest sluts you will find. Why? Because of the strict control. Christian girls aren't far behind, but they're raised far more psychologically, and their faults don't surface until later when they're angry married women. My dad's first wife was Christian, only had sex with 4 men. Married 4 times, 7 children in total.
