How would you go about contacting a girl you've never REALLY met? (edited)

[Joelcool7]

NiKKoM said:

Joelcool7 said:

Lots of advice

then:
Unfortunately I have never actually dated a girl

LOL.. why the f* are you giving him advice.. xD

Because I have actually formed relationships with multiple girls I did not know without creeping them out or causing problems. Only problem is I am not attractive physically and every girl I meet wants to be friends. However with that I have had many female friends who saw me as their girl friend and always ranted and raved about what guys did right and wrong and such. Part of the perk of being a girl's friend is you actually learn something about how the girls you like tick.

In the end your right I have never actually succeeded in getting a date with a girl. I don't ask very many out in my whole life I have asked only five girls out. I have been asked out four times face to face (Not including FaceBook) all four times I turned the girl down, because she did not meet my moral standards. Of the many times I have been asked out online (FaceBook and dating sites) I have yet to accept more then one date. The one I did accept wanted me to pick her up and I said I didn't own a vehicle after which she promptly cancelled.

Fact is the reasons I haven't dated a girl yet is because the girls I go after are all good Christian girls. Their aren't all that many Christian girls that have moral standards these days and the few that do are always taken or in the cases that they aren't they aren't attracted to a Zit covered person (In middle school, High school) or an over weight nerd (Late Highschool University).

Thing is I could have dated tons of girls by now if I had lowered my standards, such as dating non-Christians , girls with drinking problems, sex addicts etc..etc... My friends have told me I have many mutual friends interested and had another friend try kissing me once. However all of them are non-Christian and get around so to speak. Alcohol and drug issues etc...etc...

That is why I have yet to date, even in my less then attractive state I still get date offers from time to time and know of girls interested. But I choose not to date them due to moral incompatibility. Also I don't share anything in common with the girls who like me, they are all snobbish and none enjoy video games or movies or share a passion for technology etc...etc..

I will not date anyone for the sake of dating someone. If they don't match my moral basis (World View) and don't match my interested and am not compatible emotionally. Then why date? Many would argue date for sex, but being a Christian I don't believe in pre-marital sex so that point doesn't really resonate. Others would argue for company but fact is I have no shortage of friends and have female friends as well as male ones, I see no reason to start a relationship out of desperation.

In the end yah I can give advice. Good advice about how to get in contact with a girl and start a relationship. Now could I give advice on how to date a girl? No, not really because I only have experience starting relationships and talking to girls about how to ask a girl out properly what they find creepy and so fourth. I have created several friendships with girls I did not know, its better then striking out entirely and if I had better looks and asked out more chicks that were actually available I would probably have a lot more success.