LGBT Relationship Thread

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sapphi_snake said:

sad.man.loves.vgc said:

He has his own stories sapphi and they are all devestating. I'll tell you some of them. Sam (let's call him that) fell in love with a Saudi tourist once. Sam agreed on finding a job in Saudi Arabia just so he can live in the same city as his Bf (NOT THE SAME HOUSE, because that's impossilbe in Saudi).  A year later his bf got married to a woman after his family pressured him to. What they had fell apart and Sam left back to Egypt and still no one.

He went to Greece and spent his savings to improve his educational status and he did but that didn't get him anywhere outside the Arabian borders. He met a Syrian guy but they always fought over having open relationships (Sam doesn't believe in them) and he had to leave him.

He invested too much and he was willing to invest more but... where is the proof in anyone? how do you know that they are worth the sacrifices? are you willing to lose your family (the only ones who stay) just because there is a possibility that you are gonna find someone someday who is never gonna be able to sleepover without being harrased by this unforgiving society? what happens when you get old and alone? He couldn't get beyond these questions. Therefore, he decided that getting married and having children to dedicate his life for them is a solution.

His marriage slapped me in the face honestly. Those Fears and doubts aren't easy to live with. I hope you understand where he is coming from now you know some of his stories.

 

Edit: Thanks for your constant attempts to cheer me up man, you are awesome

Edit 2: I wish I could grap a shot gun right now and go to the streets right now and scream I AM HOMOSEXUAL and have them attacking me so I could start blowing their guts up.

He seems to have had very bad experiences indeed. You say that he went to Greece to improve his education but that 'didn't get him anywhere outside the Arabian borders'. Does that mean that he tried finding a job in Europe, but wasn't succesful?

Yeah. It still wasn't enough. He had plans to save up money and get into one of the universities in the UK but this isn't the case anymore. He is an English teacher. I guess it's not hot enough.

Regarding his questions and fears, I still don't see how what hie's doing will make anything better. He's being very immature and reckless, abnd the sad part is that he'll end up hurting others with his bad decisions. His problem is that he doesn't see the imperfection and suffering there is in everything, because he has an idealised illusory view of some things.

There surely is some guy out there who will give him what he wants, and even if he never finds him, there's more to life than searching for romantic partners. And if his family cared more for homophobic social norms than their son, they're not worth keeping around. Alas, he is weak, and he will suffer for it more than he suffers from what others do to him.

You shouldn't let his story bring YOU down, because if you're stronger and stick to your guns (figuratively!) you won't end up in such a pathetic situation as him. And while I can see why you'd want to just shoot everybody for what they're doing to you, and what they'd do (they'd seriously atttack you?), don't do it. They're not worth it.

This is for him actually. I do feel sorry for him. I told him I couldn't keep with touch in him anymore and now I kinda regret it.