| Wonktonodi said: What's the hardest thing any of you guy had to do in a relationship? I'll share my latter since it's a big topic in itself. |
I know it sounds weird (and wrong), but the hardest thing was not breaking up with my ex. Although we were together for two years, I spent more than half of that time wanting out of the relationship. Every time I would meet him at his place believing that I ready to tell him how I feel, he would be so nice to me that it felt wrong (for example he would have cooked for us or was sad about something). Also every time he opened the door of his flat he would kiss me passionately, so it was hard to go from that to "so... we need to talk". I loved him -and still do as a friend- but I was not attracted to him enough. We never fought over anything (which I'm not saying is necessarily a good thing) and it was really obvious that he loved me, but whenever he kissed me I felt nothing, plus the sex was far from good.
So after a year of being together I told him that I had feelings for another guy (which was true) and then he started crying. It was almost as if he had a panic attack and I couldn't bear to see him like that. He kept asking me to give it another chance, to keep trying and stuff and I couldn't say no. Same thing happened after a few months. Then I had to do my military service and he asked me not to break up with him, because I would not be able to think straight (since I was too stressed about the army and I would wanna break up with him so that I would have one less thing on my mind). So whenever I got out of the army (for a few days) I felt that I had to put on a show.
Finally I was able to break up with him after completing my military service and he took it quite well, although he did cry quite a lot. I talked about it with my friends beforehand and they all told me that I was wrong and should have broken up with him a lot sooner, but I really loved the guy and I don't think that breaking up is as easy as they make it look on tv. I honestly felt that no one would ever love me as much as he did and I did love him back, though mostly as a friend (after breaking up I realised how stupid such thought was).
