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Wow.  The answers to the questions didn't quite describe who I am, but the results were pretty darn accurate.  The bolded elements are especially accurate, while the underlined portions not so much:

How to Get Along with Me

• Be independent, not clingy.

Speak in a straightforward and brief manner.

I need time alone to process my feelings and thoughts.

Remember that If I seem aloof, distant, or arrogant, it may be that I am feeling uncomfortable.

• Make me feel welcome, but not too intensely, or I might doubt your sincerity.

If I become irritated when I have to repeat things, it may be because it was such an effort to get my thoughts out in the first place.

• don't come on like a bulldozer.

• Help me to avoid my pet peeves: big parties, other people's loud music, overdone emotions, and intrusions on my privacy.

 

What I Like About Being a FIVE

standing back and viewing life objectively

coming to a thorough understanding; perceiving causes and effects

my sense of integrity: doing what I think is right and not being influenced by social pressure

• not being caught up in material possessions and status

being calm in a crisis  (I can get a bit nervous - I appear calm, but my brain is frozen solid lol)

 

What's Hard About Being a FIVE

being slow to put my knowledge and insights out in the world

feeling bad when I act defensive or like a know-it-all

being pressured to be with people when I don't want to be

watching others with better social skills, but less intelligence or technical skill, do better professionally (and personally)

 

FIVEs as Children Often

spend a lot of time alone reading, making collections, and so on

have a few special friends rather than many

are very bright and curious and do well in school

have independent minds and often question their parents and teachers

watch events from a detached point of view, gathering information

assume a poker face in order not to look afraid

are sensitive; avoid interpersonal conflict

• feel intruded upon and controlled and/or ignored and neglected

 

FIVEs as Parents

• are often kind, perceptive, and devoted

• are sometimes authoritarian and demanding

• may expect more intellectual achievement than is developmentally appropriate

• may be intolerant of their children expressing strong emotions

Edit:

Hm.  I'm seeing a lot from 3 and 9 that describe me as well.

From 3:

 

How to Get Along with Me

• Leave me alone when I am doing my work.

• Give me honest, but not unduly critical or judgmental, feedback.

• Help me keep my environment harmonious and peaceful.

• Don't burden me with negative emotions.

• Tell me you like being around me.

• Tell me when you're proud of me or my accomplishments.

 What I Like About Being a THREE

• being optimistic, friendly, and upbeat

• providing well for my family

• staying informed, knowing what's going on

• being competent and able to get things to work efficiently

What's Hard About Being a THREE

• having to put up with inefficiency and incompetence

THREEs as Children Often

•  are well liked by other children and by adults

• are among the most capable and responsible children in their class or school

THREEs as Parents

• are consistent, dependable, and loyal

• expect their children to be responsible and organized

From 9:

How to Get Along with Me

• If you want me to do something, how you ask is important. I especially don't like expectations or pressure.

• Give me time to finish things and make decisions. It's OK to nudge me gently and nonjudgmentally.

• I like a good discussion but not a confrontation.

• Let me know you like what I've done or said.

• Laugh with me and share in my enjoyment of life.

 

What I Like About Being a NINE

• being nonjudgmental and accepting

• being able to relax and have a good time

• knowing that most people enjoy my company; I'm easy to be around

• my ability to see many different sides of an issue and to be a good mediator and facilitator

• my heightened awareness of sensations, aesthetics, and the here and now

• being able to go with the flow and feel one with the universe

 

What's Hard About Being a NINE

• being judged and misunderstood for being placid and/or indecisive

• being critical of myself for lacking initiative and discipline

• being too sensitive to criticism; taking every raised eyebrow and twitch of the mouth personally

• being confused about what I really want

• caring too much about what others will think of me

• not being listened to or taken seriously

 

NINEs as Children Often

• are "good" children: deny anger or keep it to themselves