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theprof00 on 11 June 2011
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sapphi_snake said:
theprof00 said:

I can confirm this based on anecdotal evidence. Every single one of the gay people I know (and I know a lot) have had sex with a woman before becoming gay. Many gay people try to convince themselves that they're straight because it's just such a burden to be gay nowadays. There's such a stigma surrounding it. A lot of gay people don't want to be different. It comes back around to the idea that it's not a choice.

Anyway, for those gay people I know, they tried to have sex with the opposite genders and just were not into it. If some of you actually knew gay people or got to know gay people, you'd understand so much more of the argument. Sadly, that isn't usually the case. I've known lesbians try men, and gay men try women. They do it, and try it a couple times, and just hate it. They have the exact reaction as if a straight person had sex with a gay person.

In a way sapphi, the quote is true. Many gays and lesbians DO realize their sexual orientation after they have sex, it's usually a straight relationship, and they usually are repulsed.

Is "realize" really the appropriate word, or would "accepting" fit better? I for one knew what my sexual orientation was well before I had sex.

Yes, accept is perhaps more fitting, but they could both fit, I think. I just know of many people who didn't actually know UNTIL they had sex with a woman.