@Farmageddon:
Im not sure saying you've sinned would even help. Doesn't confessing, repenting and doing your penitence make it immediatly all right?
Unless you're not ready to repent, but that's an even worse lie.
Not exactly. It depends on how bad the sins are. For example a friend of my mother's used the services of a witch (how can people be so stupid to believe soemthign like this I don't know), and the priest wouldn't give her communion for a month. In these situations the priest will give you a sort of punishment (praying, abstinecne etc.) for a certain period of time to "purify" yourself. For example, if I told the priest that I snorted some cocaine and then participated in a homosexual orgy, he most likely wouldn't give me communion.
If you're not ready to come out yet, maybe you should make yourself some bullshit rationalization like you're not harming anyone and it's all for the better and their enjoyinment of easter or something.
I'm in the process of doing that actually.
Of course you could use this situation ass a cliff and just fucking jump. I mean, you've been thinking about this for over an year now, how much longer will you take? When you move out you'll have even less pressure to tell anyone anything. If it's hard now with incentive, it'll feel like what's the point later, if it even occurs to you. And maybe you're okay with that, nothing wrong there. But if that's not the case then maybe you shouldn't procastinate so much.
Well, if I jump off a cliff I may break my neck (LOL). You're right about the procrastiation part, it actually affects many aspects of my life, though it's usually due to fear rather than lazyness. The advantage is that when I move out I'll be able to just tell them over the phone, then hang up and relax while playing a video game, while all hell breaks loose at their place. If I tell them now I'll be in the frontline, and I won't be able to get them off my back. It's true though that I'll probably be less motivated to tell them when I move out, as keeping up the charade will be much easier.
If you're hellbent on neither telling them nor doing it you could always pretend to be kidnapped.
No, this lie is just too much, as it will end up involving the police. It sounds outrageously fun, but no!
I still think letting them know in easy, baby steps is ideal. Of course that's harder with a deadline, but the whole "I gotta seek Truth by myself" act could still work. They'd want to help you and all, you'd give some excuse, say you're gonna go talk to the priest, then you actually tell him your (supposed) situation. Who knows, maybe he can actually help, and it wouldn't be wrong or anything ethicaly speaking.
The whole "seeking the truth for myself" thing won't make them happy. As I said, they're simple-minded people who've never really questioned their beliefs. My grandmother thinks the world is 4000 years old and that humans and dinosaurs coexisted (and I am no kidding). I'm not sure if the priest could be of any help. Quite frankyl I've nver trusted priests.
Truth is you should have taken the opportunity when you had plenty of time to make it right. But I know how procastination whorks, so I'm not judging :P
I know I had plent of opportunities. Frankly I should've seen something like this coming.
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