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@d21lewis:

Well, I have this fiance that doesn't like it when I have other girlfriends.......did I mention that I'm not a great guy?

Don't wanna sound like Dan Savage, but have you ever thought that maybe, just maybe, monogamy isn't for you? There are girls out there who really don't mind their bfs having sex with other women (they may even like to join in ).

As for the other characteristics, I don't know.  Maybe they're just different.  Maybe it's just the end results of decades of media telling me what to be attracted to.  Who knows.  I watch a show like The Office and I say, "You know, I could be Jim.  Why can't I have a girl like Pam?"  I want that chemistry and, living in Georgia, it's tough to find girls like that.  When I do, I tend to welcome it.  But, like I said a few times, I'm not looking for it.  I don't even have the self confidence I had a few years ago.  I'd probably end up disappointing most of these girls, in all honesty.  But yeah, femininity, a wild side, charisma, a soft voice, mischievous eyes, a quick wit--those are my achilles tendons (and poon is my achilles heel).

In other words you just like sex, and you like it with different women. You may think of it as love, but is that really what you want? Do you think that if you found a girl like Pam from The Office you would all of the sudden never "accidentally" have sex with another girl again?

Anyway, I guess you answered the question.  More than once, I've been used.  I think it's love--they think it's a good time.  One girl used me as the rebound for her divorce.  Another girl just called whenever she came to town and I was just something to do before she went to her parents house.  Another would find me when she wasn't with her boyfriend.  There was probably two in the whole group that I think could have loved me.  I think a lot of it may just be curiousity and I just don't seem to be that threatening or look like I'm in good shape or something.

From what I've noticed about girls, and what one has directly told me, you don't necessarily have to look like the guys from soap operas to score. You simply may have some characteristics that girls find studly, yet at the same time see you as jsut a piece of meat they can throw out like a tissue when they're done. Does being used for sex bother you? It kinda seems like it does.

At least, through it all my crazy gf (who I must admit isn't crazy at all.  She's just very loyal and has a lot of misplaced faith in me) has stayed with me through it all.

Do you really love her? What do you love about her? Earlier you said I watch a show like The Office and I say, "You know, I could be Jim.  Why can't I have a girl like Pam?". You have a girlfriend (with whom you have a child), yet you have such thoughts. Are the facts that she's the mother of your child, and that she's the only women who actually stayed with you the main reasons why you're still with her? If a "Pam" came along, would you not jump the chance to be with her?

For some reason, this thread post has made me really sad.  You should be a therapist.

I feel we're close to a breakthrough! (LOL)

I think I'll switch majors.