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d21lewis on 03 April 2011
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sapphi_snake said:
d21lewis said:

Here's my thing.  Okay, I'm a black male with a black fiance and we have a wonderful daughter.  For whatever reason, I've always been attracted to a variety of females.  I've actually made a list of every girl I've ever dated and more than half of them were white.  It just worked out like that.  I rarely chased after them.  Maybe the first couple, but after that I never really chased after anybody.

Well, I've been loyal to my GF since 2009.  For some reason or another, white females still approach me.  They smile and laugh at whatever I say, even when I'm not trying to be funny.  Hell, sometimes I don't even say anything.  They just come up to me and start talking and I get nervous because I'm trying really hard not to accidentally have sex with them.  My black friends that have never been with a white female (but still want to be with one) don't have a clue what I'm doing differently.  Neither do I!  I mean, I like all sorts of music (but I hide it from them), hang out with all kinds of people (I don't hang out much lately, though), and that's about it.

Here's my question--and I know it's crazy but I can't come up with any other conclusion:  Is there some sort of way that white females can detect when a black guy has dated/is attracted to a white female?  And for the record, most black females seem to avoid my ass like the plague.  I can't even carry a decent conversation with them, most of the time.

#1: You're black???

#2: I'm trying really hard not to accidentally have sex with them. - Oh, poor baby.

#3: Maybe black women are smarter than white women, and they can determine who's a "player" more easily?

#4: Why are you so racist? So what if most of the women you've dated are white? Why do you keep track of such things? Do you think there's something fundementally different between black women and white women (other than their skin colour of course)?

I don't think I'm a player.  All I ever wanted was to fall in love.  I never (well maybe a couple of times....) looked for a female just for sex.  I tend to fall in love (more like infatuation, I guess) with girls really easily.  Sometimes, I think that I can turn their lives around if i treat them right.  Sometimes, I just like talking to them.  Sometimes, they express how much they like me.  Whatever happens, I wind up obssessing over a female, thinking I'm in love, and almost getting killed.  It's more of a weakness than anything.  I've been really good about not putting myself in the situation where I'd be tempted, lately.  It's just that it's been sorta happening in the past few weeks.  I mind my own business, looking for a DVD or something, or I'm at work and suddenly I get approached.  It's almost like they're in heat or something.

And I'm definitely not racist.  That's just how things fell.  I just was curious about how many females I'd been with so I made a list of their initials.  I guess I'm observant like that.  Besides, this is the cultural questions thread.  I asked a cultural question.  I think the answer is "yes" and you're trying to throw me off the trail of learning the secret!!