| DarkCronos said: @flashpoint: i think you are more mature than the average guy of your age. don't worry, when you'll go to the college you'll find more and more guys like you... just don't give up on male friendship. i don't like too much beeing among males (i think 70% of my friends are females) but male friendship isn't something easy to replace with female-male friendship, you just have to find some friend who doesn't think constantly about sex and vulgar jokes.
to go back on topic i don't think there is an age when it becomes weird to be virgin. one should lose his/her virginity when he/she really feels about it. i lost my virginity at the age of 20 (now i'm 23, going for 24). i think i was a little late respect the people i knew, but i'm happy i waited to it with the person i loved (and i still love) |
Hmmm...Odd that it would come up online, but I get told quite often that I'm more mature than most guys my age. Anyway, male/female friendships have completely different dynamics, so it doesn't surprise me that I have issues with it. It'll be fine, just not during high school, which is okay with me.
Back on topic... Well, I don't think that having...ahem...relations before college is good, because I'm pretty sure that teenagers have no clue what love is. They might know what lust is, but love itself just isn't a concrete concept. The need for emotional acceptance or hedonism seems to be the motivator for teenage sex, as far as I can tell.
People's brains don't finish developing until age 24 or so (I think), so I'd hate to make a decision I'd regret so quickly. It wouldn't be fair to my future wife or to myself. And it affects guys, too. The idea of purity isn't given as much thought as far as guys go, but I have an acquaintance who had sex (he's 16), and he's not too happy about it now.
Even though I don't quite understand sex itself, I know that it requires you to give yourself up to another person completely, which is NOT a good thing to do. I don't understand how people can give themselves up to another person so readily. Which is also why I don't really like the idea of teenage dating, either. I don't understand why people do it.
