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[chocoloco]

d21lewis said:

chocoloco said:

I still feel I am two young to be dating a woman with two kids I mean damn. Maybe in 4 more years, but for now girls like Maria need to know I can not handle responsibilities that I did not create. Yet she keeps trying.

Girls like that make mistakes early in life.  They get with these guys that didn't mean them anything good, fall in love, and end up having kids that they have to raise by themselves.  A lot of times, they reform and try to find someone decent.  Problem is, they want to make you love their children like they were your own and it doesn't work like that.  Plus, being young, there's almost no way it could work.  It's almost like you're sacrificing your potential to be everything you can be to solve their problems for them.

It takes a special kind of person to raise another man's seed.  Plus, the kid's biolgical father almost always sees you as the enemy despite the fact that he abandoned his kids!  What's up with that?  Anyway, the way you feel right now isn't going to change.  You're not going to suddenly feel like marrying her, buying a mini-van, and getting a house with a white picket fence.  Unless you're "Captain Save a Ho" (it's a term! I'm not calling her a ho!!), just tell her how you feel.  She may be a good girl but you have to look after you.  Coming into a situation with baggage is always tough. 

It kind of sucks when you still like the girl I mean she wouldn't be on my mind if I didn't like her. I still have to see her every week in class so it has been awkward for me trying to avoid telling her the truth. As you say it is what needs to be done.   And hell no I am not ready for a mini van, mortage and settling down. Man, I still want to live my life like I will be young forever.