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Kasz216 on 14 December 2010
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sapphi_snake said:
Kasz216 said:


Well... that's just messed up.  No offense.

I mean say my girlfriend and I were married, when we both graduated college only one of us was going to be able to go to graduate school for it to work, so she went to graduate school and I've just picked up various jobs I can find to get us through the bills.

If we were to get divorced after she graduated and bought a bunch of stuff, I can't prove I financially helped pay for stuff, but she'd of never gone through college without me.  Furthermore I gave up a definite high paying careerpath to let her go to college so it'd work for her finanically since she cares more about what she does then I do.  (Had connections through a proffessor that would of probably ensured me a very high paying job.)

To not consider the effect the marriage has one the partner is crazy.


I mean, what about people who COULD of gotten education or another job, but stay home because they want to be good parents?  It just seems like an insentive against good parenting.

I was reading more about this, and appearently everything obtaind together withing the marriage is split 50-50 (though you can prove that you financially contributed more, and are entitled to more that 50%).

If you were satying home taking care fo the kids/being a housewife or househusband, that is taken into account also But not the whole "I gave up going to college for..." nonsesnse, after all this is a court of law, not a soap opera set. If you did the part that I bolded, then you sir are an idiot. Also, the fact that you don't have an education is not important. If you can get a job, then you don't get allimony, and the only reason valid for not getting a job is a dissability (I think this is very fair).


For giving up a good job so someone can be happy with what they do in life?  I don't see why.

If I made 6 figuers a year, my general life wouldn't change much at all.  Money generally holds little use for me once I get past the neccesisties and a few creature comforts.

I'd probably buy an extra videogame every month or two, buy the new systems when they come out... and that'd be it.


The rest would just go in the bank... and since I'm never going to have kids and my parents have my Dad's retirement... i'd have no use for it.

I'd probably end up just donating everything over 40K to charity after the first couple years.

I'd rather her get a job she likes more and finds fufilling and be freed up to try and pursue less matieralistic goals myself quite honestly.

Money ain't everything, heck it isn't anything but a tool.  If you are already happy, it's quite useless.

Heck, I'd even call it a burden... you don't want it and you gotta give it away.  People treating you all differently if you give it away to people you know, people resent you if you don't.

Being rich is a burden.  It's better then being poor... but making just enough so you can live a fufilling life, that's where it's at.