I did it... sorta.
I wanted to set a date for Monday because i leave midday Tuesday and wanted to get this out of the way before Thanksgiving, but she has early grades due apparently so she really has to crush to get the next three weeks' worth of gradeable materials done, so she rejected that date but didn't reject *a* date, just sometime after Thanksgiving.
Which will give me three weeks total to date her before we're rather irretrievably separated, but that should work neatly: no long-term pressure
Plus gives me a solid week to figure out a location. I'm thinking Italian
The important thing to condense out of this is that she said yes, so now i can breathe again, and finally focus on the weekend
Monster Hunter: pissing me off since 2010.