Would you date...?

[naruball]

Stefan.De.Machtige said:

pokeclaudel said:

Well I'm starting a new job in a week and the receptionist and I seemed to really hit it off while I was there for the last two weeks trying to get a job there. Her attitude likes and dislikes seemed pretty compatible with mine and she's really funny and thinks I'm funny too. We met outside for lunch once just a random meeting. I would have usually already asked a girl out on an official date but there's one thing that's stopping me.

She's obese...like 250-300 pounds obese. If you just saw her face you'd think she's attractive but the rest of her body is really holding me back. I've gone with chuby girls before but never with someone that big. Usually when I see obese people I think no self-control espcially when I'm at the grocery store and there carts are full of cakes and cookies.

Would anyone go out with an obese person or am I just really shallow?

If you really like her, date her and help her lose weight. It could forge a bond to do so. In any way, an obese person has a big health problem.

I respectfully disagree. I dated a smoker and convinced myself that I could help him give up smoking but he never did. He seemed to like the idea at first and he tried a bit, but he never gave up, even after telling him that I hated it and it nearly killed me when I was 2, because both of my parents wouldn't stop smoking in the house. Although he said he loved me, I guess it was too much of an addiction.

I 'm pretty sure that it's the same with fat people. They might be willing to make an effort and still have insignificant results. My advice would be to be with someone for who they are and not who you want them to be. And no, you're not shallow, just not attracted to her. Since you both like each other you should be friends instead.