Help!!! Need Advice on How to Repel Girls!

[sapphi_snake]

dunno001 said:

sapphi_snake said:

Amazing! You're definately a good guy to have around in a crisis.

He said he wants to take her to play tennis. He loves tennis, but she hates it. He initally wanted to take her to a restaurant, but it's obvious why that would be a bad ideea, so I set him straight about that.

Eh, like I said, I like helping on things like this. I've done the spectrum on this, from gay guys to lesbians, to, in 1 case, helping both sides of the same straight couple! (To my knowledge, they're still together, too.) And yes, a restaurant is definitely a bad idea!

But that location... it has some very interesting parameters. Ordinarily, if she liked it, I would pose walking away as an option; in this case, she'd probably prefer to leave there, so that negates that. Hrm... this is a tough one... I assume that he's going to be showing her how to play? I'm going to go on this assumption for now. But given that at many tennis courts, finding a unpaired person is tough, that's what makes this one a challenge. If there is an odd person, that gives the easiest option- ignore her and play with this other person. But I can't depend on this. Then we have other variables- how busy is the area? Do people wait for courts to open up, or is it quiet enough that they could very well be the only 2 there?

I guess, if it's just the 2 of them, he can work on his serve, having her return the balls back over from the other side. It sort of uses her as a puppet. She'll probably bore of this quickly, in which case, he goes to ignoring her, and continues to practice. Likewise, if there's a serving machine there, having her load that can also work, with the same final outcome.

In a busier area, with no unpaired person, if it's not too busy, he can practice in one court, and have her watch another game in progress; tell her things to watch for, certain motions, etc, and how they are good for playing. (As I am not a tennis player, I can't give specifics on this.) If it's too busy to have one person on a court for practicing, then watch a game that seems to be doing well. (Current score of 6-0, 6-1, 4-0 not so good, 7-6, 4-6, 3-3 sounds like a winner.) Since silence is etiquette during a volley, he can again have her looking for those motions.

However, those are both for minor cases. It may get bad enough that he simply has to leave. At this point, I would ask about transportation arrangements. If they came seperately (this includes if the park is walkable from home), then the easiest thing is to tell her to go home. If she refuses, then he may not have much choice but to leave. If he's in charge of getting her home, it's a little worse of a case. He can just say flat out that he wants to get X done, regardless of her. If she causes distractions, he'll need to stay later to fix it, and thus she waits longer. He should not, in any way, have it be that she's responsible for getting him home. At that point, he has no power of control, and she can leave at will.

While better than a restaurant from a date perspective, I'm unfortunately not seeing any real good outs for a severe case. But I do think that it may be a good thing, in a way that it shows that he has his hobbies, and that he will continue them, regardless of what she thinks. And this would show more dedication to relaxation than to a relationship. It's got interesting undertones, which is why I think it's a good venue.

You seem to be very good at this stuff. Impressive. I've saved all your advice in Word and e-mailed it to him.