sapphi_snake said:
I think that the best course of action in this case may also depend on the person and his/her personality. A scared, gutless person following the philosophy you described may find comfort in his/her current situation by deluding themselves ('cause it's easier and requires less effort) and simply never make any progress. An overtly-abitions and shallow person following the opposite philosophy may end up constantly unsatisfied, always wanting more and never appreciating what they do have. Like I said, there's no answer that works for everyone. |
What I wrote on is not someone who settles, as being in contrast with something else, but rather someone who happens to find legitimate good in something as is, and sees how they can use it as a resource. It is a case of accepting what is and seeing how it can be used, rather than resigning over what is not.
Anyhow, my take is what you get or don't get in life is independent of what you want or don't want. It is possible for one, on the one hand, maintain a good attitude and find good in their situation, while doing things to bring about change that is needed. I would say, in fact, the person with a good attitude is more likely to get than the person who is desperate. This is not to say desperation can't be a starting point, but that is all that it is, a starting point.
On a practical level, consider the case of prolonged unemployment with a need to find work. Does hating being unemployed and wanting out, and showing an employer you are willing to take anything just to no longer be unemployed more or less likely to get one out of being unemployed? I would say less likely. I would say, on the other hand, if you appreciate what you have, and get a good attitude and right focus, the chances for change are better. Same with someone who is single and lonely, and wanting a partner. If you wish to argue against this, please feel free to.
