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joora on 26 August 2010
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sapphi_snake said:
Killy_Vorkosigan said:

Pretty interesting since I had the same problems a decade ago.

At 16, I opened my eyes and found out I couldn't believe all this religious nonsense. I just told my parents I didn't believe these anymore and mass was just a waste of time. Of course my parents went maniac about this, and even threatened me to get me out of school. I began to refuse to go to the mass (as we did every sunday), but they kinda forced me to go at first, then I refused to participate to communion, did not sang anymore, just couldn't do anything than sit without moving. After a while, I just did not got to mass anymore and my parents kinda accepted my refusal of religion. Although, I got definitively out of my parents house for my studies, and finally my relationship with my parents got really better.

I also did something at that time, that may have helped things a lot : I went to see a local priest and told him the whole story. I don't know if it helped, or if he talked to my parents, it just helped me to talk about this to someone. Even if religions disgusts me in general, I've to say that I've met a lot of priests who were really fine, understanding persons. This may help you, to see the local priest for mediation between you and your parents.

 

Good luck, you'll need some.

 

 

 

Edit : yes Wiccan ? ^^ sorry, I had to make that joke :D :goes to bed:

Priests aren't allowed to share what you tell them during confession. You should've had him fired for that.


actually, talking to a priest isn't automatically an act of confession. It's different if you are willing to confess (where the priest serves as a kind of channel(conduit?) to God)  or do you just want to talk to priest seeking advice or guidance.

About your problem, religion is an individual choice, and like many other individual preferences, your choice is a subject to criticism from other members of your community. One can accept you as who you choose to be, or one can decide to distance him/herself from you. There are many variables on which this decision is to be made, and if your parents really love you, they will love you after you explain your proplem to them. Just don't expect that they will be happy with your choice. It's similar to console fanboyism - if your friend is a nintendo fanboy, and you are an avid supporter of ps3, you can normally continue to be friends, but you will hardly ever agree on some console-related topic. But ofcourse, while it's similar, religion has a far greater impact on one's life, and according to some, one's afterlife. 

Out of pure curiosity, why have you became atheist? HAve you considered other religions before you decided? Have you actually give your parent's religion a try (reading and research about dogmas and so on)? Have you found satisfying answers of complex questions such as existence in logic? Can you imagine your cease of existence on this world, and are you satisfied where yoi imagine yourself after that?

I know those are highly individual questions, and you don't have to answer them if you feel uncomfortable.



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