She is shallow yes but humans are very shallow. What's new? People choose mates for very shallow reasons and people can't help doing so. Physical attractiveness, "financial security", social status, "common interests", etc. (this one is the kiss of death for a geeky guy like me. Because I'd rather stay home playing videogames on a Saturday night than go clubbing. And geeky gamer chicks are in short supply compared to geeky guys. I haven't been in a relationship for years and I thought about trying to be more outgoing so that I can get into one again. But after giving it some good thought, I realized that I would be happier being the "real me" than trying to pretend I'm someone I'm really not just to increase my chances of finding a mate. I "faked it" with my previous girlfriend and while things were great at the beginning, I ended up miserable because I didn't feel comfortable with her like I do with "one of the guys". My male friends being pretty much mostly geeks. I didn't feel like myself with her. )
Common interests IMO are far from the most important part of a relationship. One of my best friends is not a gamer and we have radically different views on certain subjects (especially religion). But I know I can trust him more than almost everyone else (that's what best friends are for. And a spouse is supposed to be your best friend basically. But with physical intimacy and a greater level of emotional connection). And some of the best conversations I've ever had with women were with older women in their 30s and 40s (and they were not gamers. And even if they had a Wii around the house, like many women their age do, it didn't come up in conversation).
Anywho, People can't will themselves to be sexually attracted to someone they aren't sexually attracted to. And unless she and he are ok with a sexless marriage, it's a problem if she isn't sexually attracted to hubby anymore (not that there is anything wrong with sexless marriage. I think it's a load of bs that a happy marriage absolutely must include sex. There are plenty of happily married couples, usually middle-aged and older ones, that don't have sex anymore. But It depends on the person and I think it's safe to say that for her, sex is still a very important part of her marriage. Considering she makes such a big deal about his looks).
