The thing is, the opinion that gays cannot get married and adopt limits the rights of a lot of people in society. Whereas the viewpoint that allows people to marry and adopt if their gay gives more people the same rights.
I know which society I'd prefer to live in (the latter...)
The assumption that adoption and marriage are only between man and woman is actually a very narrow and ill-researched assumption because several societies have allowed gay marriage (of some form) in the past (read Ancient Greece and Rome the two countries that essentailly created the western world, some native American Indian tribes had religious same sex unions) and several within the world do today (Belgium I believe).
It may not be the widest held view, but the whole poing of most western systems of rights is to protect the minority from the tyranny of the majority. Direct democracy is simply not what we live in and thus the assumption that the majority view it as wrong and thus it should be illegal because of majority opinion simply isn't a valid reason to stop it and its an increadibly logically hypocritical viewpoint.
And coming from a family that has adopted a child (my brother) I can tell you that the psychological damage that a child can recieve by being in an orphanage is terrible and the longer a child is in an institution the worse it gets. Getting children out of such places as fast as possible if very important and I see no reason why gay couples shouldn't be able to apply because I can tell you it'd be FAR BETTER to have gay parents then spend an extre couple of years in an orphanage.







